my response & part I of memo one...

Every so often I tend to revisit the meaning of love (I guess you can say I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic - or I like torturing myself trying to analyze the complexity of this emotion...). Usually, this visitation is based on a transitional period in my life - or simply from a recent conversation I may have had with a friend. Nevertheless, whether my own personal reflection or the saga of another, I seem to find myself revisiting love~

There are few things in this world more powerful than a man loving his woman unconditionally, and there are few things as affecting as knowing the love a woman has for her man... This love surpasses the stages of lust and initial friendship. It births loyalty and fidelity, respect and honesty, trust, patience, and understanding... Too often people fall in love with the concept of "Being in Love". If "Being in Love" is what a man or woman tend to fall in love with, they limit themselves from truly connecting with this other person in their life... They're only loving the surface of the relationship (the notion of love), not the person within the relationship... There's a difference.

If a man is in love with a woman, I mean, truly in love with this woman - {well, first of all ladies, this woman will know~ Ladies, we can burden ourselves immensely wondering if a man in our life is in love with us... If a man is in love with a woman, he will tell her (simple as that)... Okay, so that may sound a bit harsh, but think about it... If a man is in love with a woman - if he doesn't want another man to have her - if he can admit to himself that he is ready to show the world that he is in love with her - then my sister - he will tell this woman exactly how he feels... I had to listen to my own advice a time ago... I had to learn the hard way - trying to figure out what a man is thinking or feeling - it takes more energy than one should give... I've come to the philosophy, if you've reached a point where you want to know how a man feels, ask, or wait for him to tell you~} Okay, okay, I drifted off from my initial flow (I'll talk more on this in another memo)...

If a man is in love with a woman, I mean, truly in love with this woman, he would show her in his every touch. He would prove to her by his constant commitment... He would long for her during the day while he's working, and praise her to his best man... He would greet her with flowers and subtle kisses - meet her and only her in their special place at night when no one is there - this place of love making... sweet, sensual, hot love making... If a man is in love with a woman, he would embrace the pain of her most hidden sorrow, and protect her against any chance of insecurity... He would hold no anger, bitterness, or strife, he would be glorified that this woman is his wife.... He would dance with her in the middle of the kitchen floor, and school their children on the meaning of work and chores... He would joke with her until she smiled, he would play with her until something freaky went down... If a man is in love with a woman, a woman that has become his wife, there is nothing in the world that he would let harm her, even if it meant he had to give his life...

Expressions from a woman in love:
You say you saw a lifetime in an instant
The day we met you weren't the only one who knew
Knew that you would complete me and I would complete you
The awareness of three is how we became destined to be
Your inner voice, my inner voice, and the voice who chose us to be happy - together for others to see
So, you say you saw a lifetime in an instant
And, baby I did too
When you saw your hand holding mine, I saw my body wrapped with you - I felt the embrace of a Man I never felt - The kiss of a love that made my heart melt - The presence of Trust, Comfort, and Protection - The light of a new direction
It's like the Maker placed us on a path face to face, and gave us instructions to walk together at a comfortable pace...

Okay, is that enough for now... Just a little something on my view of two people in love... You still want to know how I know when I've fallen in love..? Am I apprehensive..? To be continued~

~expressions copyright june, 2005