rhetorically speaking
Thoughts from the past:
How can a man tell me he wants to marry me and he’s never told me he loves me… How can a man tell me he loves me unconditionally yet can’t position himself to show me… How can a man think I am the one but can’t say he really knows me… How can a man act like he wants something special but he isn’t ready to treat me special… You don’t have the answers, hell I don’t either – but I’ve come a little close… Men are like a box of chocolates – you never know what assortment you’ll find – a saying we’ve all heard… I’m not trying to be funny, but it’s true… I know men are alike in several ways – heck – almost simple we may say (no, men I’m not calling you simple beings – just not as complex as we try to make you out to be at times)… I say you all can be an interesting assortment because you all have your different ways of expressing yourself… Can I believe a man wants to marry me if he can’t say the words ~I Love You~… Is he afraid to feel like he’s put himself in a vulnerable position by telling me he loves me or should I just believe him because he’s voiced his wants for me to be with him… Am I looking for too much from this man or am I being fair to myself by having a valid concern of wondering if he will ever be able to tell me he loves me… Or does he only think he is in love because he’s found a good woman he can settle down with and start a family… Could he be waiting for me to say yes/take him up on his offer and then he’ll tell me – Is he thinking to himself – "No need to let all my feelings out if I don’t know for sure she wants the same thing I want… " I guess I always thought a man would say, “I love you, would you be my wife…” Is the fact that he wants to marry me enough right there – am I asking for too much when I know this man thinks the world of me… What about the man who showers me with those words often… “I love you. I love you.” What woman wouldn’t want to hear those words… What woman wouldn’t love to hear how much she means to a man… What woman wouldn’t appreciate hearing how wonderful she is, how good she looks, or how great she makes that man feel… What woman wouldn’t want to hear from her man the morning before an interview or a doctor’s appointment or a major presentation and just told to knock ‘em out or everything will be fine or you know this like the back of your hand… What woman wouldn’t want to feel special… Like men who genuinely want to feel appreciated so do women… Did I drift – If so I apologize… I’m just speaking… For a man who loves me unconditionally, but can’t position himself to show me – is that a sign that the love isn’t real… We always hear that actions speak louder than words… The man that thought I was the one yet still had so much to know about me – was his feelings genuine… Did he know when he first laid eyes on me… Did he know when I walked in the room smelling of the perfume he enjoyed smelling on a woman… Did he know when he saw me in something sexy I was wearing… When did he know… For the men who always want to be treated special even if the treatment isn’t reciprocated… Why… Two reasons – they are either playing games or they are either playing games (I think I said that twice..??)… Well, so may assortments, so little time in the world to elaborate on them all… Again, I’m just speaking… You know – just jottin notes… Nothing more – nothing less... I can’t talk about these past pieces of chocolate at once… I will have to tackle one sensation at a time; therefore, stay tuned for the first chapter (chapter one – dark chocolate cream filling)…
How can a man tell me he wants to marry me and he’s never told me he loves me… How can a man tell me he loves me unconditionally yet can’t position himself to show me… How can a man think I am the one but can’t say he really knows me… How can a man act like he wants something special but he isn’t ready to treat me special… You don’t have the answers, hell I don’t either – but I’ve come a little close… Men are like a box of chocolates – you never know what assortment you’ll find – a saying we’ve all heard… I’m not trying to be funny, but it’s true… I know men are alike in several ways – heck – almost simple we may say (no, men I’m not calling you simple beings – just not as complex as we try to make you out to be at times)… I say you all can be an interesting assortment because you all have your different ways of expressing yourself… Can I believe a man wants to marry me if he can’t say the words ~I Love You~… Is he afraid to feel like he’s put himself in a vulnerable position by telling me he loves me or should I just believe him because he’s voiced his wants for me to be with him… Am I looking for too much from this man or am I being fair to myself by having a valid concern of wondering if he will ever be able to tell me he loves me… Or does he only think he is in love because he’s found a good woman he can settle down with and start a family… Could he be waiting for me to say yes/take him up on his offer and then he’ll tell me – Is he thinking to himself – "No need to let all my feelings out if I don’t know for sure she wants the same thing I want… " I guess I always thought a man would say, “I love you, would you be my wife…” Is the fact that he wants to marry me enough right there – am I asking for too much when I know this man thinks the world of me… What about the man who showers me with those words often… “I love you. I love you.” What woman wouldn’t want to hear those words… What woman wouldn’t love to hear how much she means to a man… What woman wouldn’t appreciate hearing how wonderful she is, how good she looks, or how great she makes that man feel… What woman wouldn’t want to hear from her man the morning before an interview or a doctor’s appointment or a major presentation and just told to knock ‘em out or everything will be fine or you know this like the back of your hand… What woman wouldn’t want to feel special… Like men who genuinely want to feel appreciated so do women… Did I drift – If so I apologize… I’m just speaking… For a man who loves me unconditionally, but can’t position himself to show me – is that a sign that the love isn’t real… We always hear that actions speak louder than words… The man that thought I was the one yet still had so much to know about me – was his feelings genuine… Did he know when he first laid eyes on me… Did he know when I walked in the room smelling of the perfume he enjoyed smelling on a woman… Did he know when he saw me in something sexy I was wearing… When did he know… For the men who always want to be treated special even if the treatment isn’t reciprocated… Why… Two reasons – they are either playing games or they are either playing games (I think I said that twice..??)… Well, so may assortments, so little time in the world to elaborate on them all… Again, I’m just speaking… You know – just jottin notes… Nothing more – nothing less... I can’t talk about these past pieces of chocolate at once… I will have to tackle one sensation at a time; therefore, stay tuned for the first chapter (chapter one – dark chocolate cream filling)…
4 Comments:
I think if a man doesn't say it he doesn't mean it, because as non-complex beings they tend to say what they mean.
I've spoken to a couple men who have never told the woman they love her, yet consider marrying her, and although I don't believe they love the woman as "the one" they have some type of love for her.
Men marry because they have found the one or the time is right for them. I'm sure either circumstance is fine for them.
I agree. I think it's up to the women who recognize the "lack of expression" to decide if she wants to (basically) take the man up on his offer... Depending on what the woman is looking for, she may be okay with marrying someone she thinks is a good man (but not necessarily the soul-mate she was looking for)...?? I have a friend who married her husband knowing he wasn't her soul-mate, but she cared for him for being a part of her life... If both parties are fine with it, I say, best wishes... :)
Thanks for your response!
Ok...check it out S.Love. When are you going to update again? hee hee I mean, it's been over a week now. Look at me getting on you about posting and I post weekly myself! IF that! LOL
Your work made me think. It's good to see a woman express herself fully. I have some thoughts I would like to share with you. Why do women ask for things they are not ready to handle? I always hear women say there are no good men left. They want someone that is nice, sensitive, attentive to their needs, good with communication, ambitious, educated, straight, affectionate, honest, loyal, faithful just to name a few.
I believe I possess most of those qualities and then some. I am a modest person but I do feel I am a very good catch. I don't have any children because I feel they should be the product of the loving bond of marriage. I have on more than one occasion been told that I am too qualified to date. I have so much going for me that the potential of being involved with me and it not working would be overwhelming to deal with because I do have so much potential... I hope you followed that because it’s hard for me to fully phathom myself...
For some reason women feel like they have the market cornered when it comes to pain. I feel the pain of not being accepted for being a strong black man. I feel the loneliness of coming home to an empty house that I own. I feel the frustration of being what every woman wants but no one wants to embrace. I cry, I feel, I want, I love, I lust, I strive, I fail, I preserver, I fall and I rise, and at this point I digress.
What do women really want? I have heard that women have grown up much of their lives wanting to live a fantasy life. I believe those very fantasies have been the reason why they have experienced the hard reality of love. It’s easy to love but so hard to be the only one in love during a relationship. The game of love can be so cruel when all we want is to be happy.
What is a man to do? I wish I could deflect all the pain away that women have experienced in life and make it my own. That would be my gift to women for all the shortcomings that they have endured in relationships. Nail me to a cross, give me a crown of thorns and pricks, stick knives in my side and let me die for the sins of the black man. I would gladly do this if I knew that another good, strong, black man wouldn't have to be trapped in a loveless nightmare.
I only need one woman to be brave and take a chance to actually know just how good love is supposed to be. I only need one woman to be my missing rib and complete me. I only need one queen to claim her destiny. I only need one woman to bare my child. I only need one woman to encourage me to be the man that God intends me to be. I only need one woman to be my wife. So many women want to be loved unconditionally but what woman can truly recognize a real man?
Love is a two-headed monster that makes some eternally happy and others cry themselves to sleep. Love is a destination that I seek, but I'm blind folded stuck in a maize without anyone to guide me where I long to be. Love is my desire but loneliness and frustration are my only company. Where do I go, how do I get to my paradise..?
Confused
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